So we met with our Social Worker this past week. We are very sad that she is leaving the territory since we have had a great connection with her. It has been really nice having a Christian social worker who understands our values and morals. She also loves Tillsley and every time she comes to the house she spends the entire time holding the dog in her lap! I like it when people fall in love with my fur-babies!
The slightly bad news is that at this time they are not replacing her which means that we won't be assigned a new social worker. The adoption coordinator will essentially take over and if a child comes up for adoption she will be the one that will (hopefully) think of us and put our names forward. I'm not too concerned considering that our social worker, in the two years she has worked at family services, has only done one adoption and even that one hasn't been finalised yet.
So, I really do not see us adopting any time soon, at least not from family services. I'm still hoping that through friends and contacts who know we are looking to adopt, a birth mom will approach us. Until then our energy (and money!) will go towards IVF which I am really hoping will happen sometime this fall... but we will see.
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Sad news. I like the new blog layout tho! Miss you. I will keep praying for you. HUGS.
I think IVF is a wonderful choice, I would highly recommend that you research clinics though. I dealt with two and one had a way more laid back approach than the other. I would suggest you go to a clinic that will use a more aggressive approach, especially because with a fresh embryo transfer your odds of it taking are so much higher with the right injections. Also if you do go threw with the IVF, and I know how tempting it is, what ever you do, do not use HPT's after to see if it worked. They are so inaccurate, I got negatives when I took it and it turned out I was pregnant when the beta came back positive. Good luck!!!! Consult with friends/family if you know anyone who's done IVF to find out their experiences
Hi there.
My name is Ally. I'm 22, and have been following your blog for about six months now. We have never met, and have never heard of each other until this very moment. I found your blog randomly when I started using blogger. I followed for some sort of support of my own struggle. I have the opposite problem of yours. I am 22, and have been pregnant twice. Both when I was 19. Only one was full term, and I am now a single mom to a 2 year old ball of energy. Following your blog has made me realize how ungrateful I was for my child. When I was pregnant I struggled with the decision of adoption. After choosing to keep my daughter, and raise her, I still struggled with my choice, and have only recently come to terms with the fact that I can do this, alone. There are still days that I struggle with it, and that I get beyond frustrated with my situation, and my age, and my daughter as well. I just wanted to tell you thank you for doing what you had no idea you were doing. I know the purpose of your blog is to vent out your own frustrations, and to let the followers you have of your struggle, and your ultimate goal. But through all of that, you have helped me appreciate my situation, my daughter, and my luck.
I haven't finished reading all the way back through past posts, so asking this may possibly be stupid, but have you ever considered a surrogate? I know that it could be frustrating, having to watch this woman go through your childs pregnancy, feeling everything, that as a mother, YOU should be feeling. But there are options as far as surrogates go. Family members (as awkward as that could be) can volunteer for the process, as well as hired surrogate mothers. I'm sure it is all information that you already know.
I wish you and your husband the absolute best of luck, and I know that you guys will love the child that YOU WILL RECIEVE more than anything, and be great parents.
Good luck!! And thank you!
-Ally
Hi Ally,
You have made my day! I am sooooo incredibly happy that my blog was able to help you realise what a gift your daughter is! Even when things seem to be so hard and difficult it's good to realise just how blessed we are! (I need this reminder all the time! lol!)
While surrogacy is an amazing option and we have actually had several friends offer to help in that way, for us it doesn't make as much sense as doing IVF since it's just as costly (or more) and I should be able to carry a child. (I hope!) I actually have a friend who was a surrogate for an older couple and she gave birth to twins! :o)
Thanks again for your story and for reading! I really need to give an update soon or I'm going to lose all my followers!
Blessings to you and your daughter! Keep up the awesome work as a single mom... one of the hardest but most rewarding jobs in the world!
Shannon
Ally, I am Shannon's mother-in-law. I just want to say that you have done a beautiful thing by posting on here. Thank you so much
Shelley
Shannon & Shelley,
Thank you so much for the sweet words! I'm glad that my story, and appreciation could make you smile, just like you guys made me smile! Shannon you are in my prayers, and I can't wait to read the update that tells us you are absolutely 110% pregnant with your child!
Good luck!! Best wishes!!
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